In our lives, if we suffer, there are going to be people who don’t care one way or the other. But then there will be people who will help us, guide us, protect us when needed or support us emotionally and sometimes financially. And these people may each play distinct roles in helping us get from point A to point B. These roles may be filled by family members, friends, co-workers, elders or pastors, teachers or even our children.
So often we think we have to go through life alone or somehow believe that we got to our current Points in life by lifting ourselves by our bootstraps with no help from anyone. Yet, we must be honest with ourselves. We all have or had a village.
The phrase “it takes a village” is often applied to child raising. But it can also be applied to going through life as a teen or adult. The people in our lives may be there in all the aforementioned ways but we don’t recognize them as the village that they are.
For me, if not for the teachers I had, I never would have discovered the gift of writing that I possessed. Without my mom being there to be my advocate after I was diagnosed with Tourette Syndrome, I would have had to educate everyone CONSTANTLY on it. Without some of the friends I’ve made, I never would have become fluent in American Sign Language. Without some of my friends, I never would have learned how to socialize. Without certain friends and family, I would have been homeless because I missed out on my rent. Without the help of a friend, I never would have made it to have my cochlear implant surgery.
That was and is my village. They made me stronger. They helped me to believe in myself. They helped me cope with life and its anxieties. They helped me reconnect with God. They helped me be a better person.
What’s your village like? How did they help and/or inspire you? Are you part of someone’s village?